“R” NOT for “Resolutions”
Dear Friend,
As the Western Year comes to a close, there are thousands of people who will be doing resolutions, goal setting, and swearing off chocolate. Some people are probably swearing off New Year’s resolutions while they’re at it.
Why? Because for a lot of people, they don’t work. They don’t have a clear idea of where they’re going, or how they plan to get there. Sometimes I’m one of them. In moments like that, what I am good at is figuring out who would know. I come back to Terry McBride’s triangle of “Be, Do, Have.” In short: What do I need to work on to Be the person who will Do the things that need doing.. in order to Have the things I want to have.
Losing weight? Who is the kind of person who will start making the kinds of lifestyle choices that allow those pounds to melt away? When do they get up in the morning? What do they eat? When faced with that leftover Holiday Fudge, what do they say? What kind of values do they have for themselves that makes these choices easy.
So as an experiment… take three goals and instead of writing the affirmations “I will rock the monkey tree.. (what ever your monkey tree will be..)” and flesh out what it would take to be that Rocker.
Yes.. “R” is for Rock On.
Humbly,
Kaye
Funny you should write this now. I had been working with a life coach for the past 7 weeks with good progress. But I realized that a big part of my process was missing – I needed to establish the vision of who I am firmly in my mind – in other words, the “Be” – before I could really Do and Have…
Thanks for writing!