Take the compliment – PLEASE
I’m part of a focus group of four women entrepreneurs, all of whom I love working with. While a diverse group, we’re all starting building our business/practices, based on years of skills and experiences. Every woman in this group is intelligent, fun, insightful, and edgy. They all are creative and have great a sense of humor.
But not one of us can take a compliment and it pisses me off.
Today, I was sitting in the dining room with one of them; she showed me her website, her business copy, her graphics, and it was a sock in the gut how amazing it all was. She had something coherent, visually stunning, professional yet edgy, amazing and my first thought was my god, I wonder if she’ll let me copy her site?? It was awesome, period. So I told her it was awesome. And I really admired how great she is doing (I admit, I’m envious!).
She rolled her eyes, and made a face. “Yeahhhh… well….”
Oddly, it hurt. She is doing awesome, to the point where I would be more envious if I didn’t admire her so much. Rolling her eyes was like telling me either I had no taste, or I calling me a liar. It made me think about what it must be like for others when I do it…
You’re welcome,
Kaye
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Been working on this one recently, myself… or should I say, I’ve been to working on this one… :)
I’d say it falls into the category of gifting people the opportunity to help. Allowing someone to reciprocate the joy you give them. Ask for help, and help someone feel like they’ve been helpful…
:Do all things in Goodness
Have a nice day
Datig,
I agree. So here is the question: Why is it still so hard for us to simply say “Thank you” when we’re complimented? Is there fear that people won’t like us if we simply accept a compliment?
Thanks!
Kaye