Win-Win-Win (Win, win, win)
Dear Friends,
People talk about creating Win-Win situations. Sometimes these are people who play “Zen Volleyball,” a game where nobody wins unless both teams reach a tie at 7 points. However, there are also people who know that when it comes to relationships (be it sexual, business, social, etc.), nobody wins if someone is losing.
Dawn & Akien of Mandala Enterprises explain it with the following diagram:
The Relationship
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Me |
You |
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Win
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Lose |
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Lose
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Win |
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Win
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Win |
As you can see; if I win and you lose, the relationship loses (because you’ve lost). Same goes the other way. The only way the relationship wins, is if everyone wins.
Now, I know what you’re thinking. And there are lots of thoughts on how much compromise can be made before somebody feels like they’re losing. But this about remembering to:
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Build deals where everyone gets to win, and
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Give your partner ways to win (then let them know they won)
To your successes,
Kaye
